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Directions: Listed below are several statements that reflect different attitudes about love. For each statement fill in the blank using the response that indicates how much you agree or disagree with that statement. The items refer to a specific love relationship.

Whenever possible, answer the questions with your current partner in mind. If you are not currently dating anyone, answer the questions with your most recent partner in mind. If you have never been in love, answer in terms of what you think your responses would most likely be. There is no right or wrong answers - we each carry traits from the different styles of love.

For each question score the following:
(1) Strongly Disagree, (2) Moderately Disagree, (3) Neutral- neither Agree or Disagree, (4) Moderately Agree, and (5) Strongly Agree

Response Question
1 5 Our friendship merged gradually into love over time.
1 5 Since I have been in love with my partner, I have had trouble concentrating on anything else.
1 5 I feel that my partner and I were meant for each other.
1 5 My partner would get upset if he/she knew some of things Ive done with others.
1 5 My partner and I have the right physical chemistry between us.
1 5 I am usually willing to sacrifice my own wishes to let my partner achieve his/hers.
1 5 I could get over my affair with my partner pretty easily and quickly.
1 5 Our love is the best kind because it grew out of a long friendship.
1 5 I would rather suffer myself than let my partner suffer.
1 5 When my partner does not pay attention to me, I feel sick all over.
1 5 Our lovemaking is intense and satisfying.
1 5 My partner fits my ideal standards for physical beauty/ handsomeness.
1 5 I cannot be happy unless I place my partners happiness before my own.
1 5 I cannot relax if I suspect that partner is with someone else.
1 5 Whatever I own is my partners to use as he/she chooses.
1 5 My partner and I became emotionally involved rather quickly.
1 5 If my partner and I broke up, I would get so depressed that I would even think of suicide.
1 5 When things are not right with my partner and me, my stomach gets upset.
1 5 An important factor in choosing my partner was whether or not he/she would be a good parent.
1 5 I expect to always be friends with my partner.
1 5 Our love is really a deep friendship, not a mysterious, mystical emotion.
1 5 When my partner gets angry with me, I still love him/ her fully and unconditionally.
1 5 A main consideration in choosing my partner was how he/she would reflect on my family.
1 5 One consideration in choosing my partner was how he/she would reflect on my career.
1 5 It is hard for me to say exactly when our friendship turned into love.
1 5 Before getting very involved with my partner, I tried to figure out how compatible his/her hereditary background would be with mine in case we ever had children.
1 5 My partner and I were attracted to each other immediately after we first met.
1 5 Sometimes I get so excited about being in love with my partner that I cannot sleep.
1 5 I believe that what my partner does not know about me wont hurt him/her.
1 5 When my partner gets too dependent on me, I want to back off a little.
1 5 I enjoy playing the game of love with my partner and a number of other partners.
1 5 If my partner ignores me for a while, I sometimes do stupid things to try to get his/her attention back.
1 5 I have sometimes had to keep my partner from finding out about other partners.
1 5 In choosing my partner, I believe it was best to love someone with a similar background.
1 5 My partner and I really understand each other.
1 5 To be genuine, our love first required caring for a while.
1 5 I try to always help my partner though difficult times.
1 5 Our love relationship is the most satisfying because it developed from a good friendship.
1 5 I try to keep my partner a little uncertain about my commitment to him/her.
1 5 I tried to plan my life carefully before choosing my partner.
1 5 I considered why my partner what my partner was going to become in life before I committed myself to him/her.
1 5 I would endure all things for the sake of my partner.